Tuesday, January 17, 2006

Delayed reaction...

Since the death of the teacher from Daniel's school, he has maintained that he is ok and has no worries or concerns. Since finding out she was murdered, he still holds that all is well, and that he doesn't need to talk about it. I'm beginning to think differently. He has started wetting the bed, and although that was a problem for awhile for him, he had long outgrown the habit. Last night was no different, and when he came into my room, he said that he had dreamt that Claire had been murdered. I think it's time to get some help. It's obviously playing on his subconcious mind. There is another information session at school on thursday evening and I think I will be taking this one in.

12 comments:

Jodi said...

Ooooh! I am so glad you have seen the signals and are able to get him some help. That has to be so scary for him.

Good Luck

Family Of Five said...

Awww.... poor little guy.... good for you... seeking out the help he needs. I have seen too many incidents lately of parents who don't believe in counselling and their kids are suffering because of it.

Evey said...

Poor guy, thats horrible. I will keep him in my prayers!

Better Safe Than Sorry said...

i think it's hard for kids to really understand and grasp what has happened, you're right to get him some help. the schools here usually have lots of grief counsellors on hand to deal with this, you should get professional help if possible.

Jamie Dawn said...

That is so sad to hear that Daniel is being so negatively affected by this. The evil of murder is hard for me to understand, so I can see why he is having a hard time dealing with it. Fear is an awful thing. I hope with your help he will begin to feel safe again.

Bumbling Bav said...

Poor thing! Good for you Alison, for not pushing him but being there for him. You are such a wonderful mother!

Cori said...

Yes its a good thing that you are catching this early. Its affected me and I dont even live there. I cant imagine what it does to kids.

Connie and Rob said...

I feel the same way most everyone else does...it is great that you have let him come to you and now you recognize he needs help.

When I first read your post it really upset me and I just can't imagine how all those children at school are able to deal with it.

My thoughts and prayers are with your son.

Connie

Shelley said...

Alison I'm so sorry to hear this. It might be best to get him some councelling. Things come out in dreams that may have been playing on our subconscious. I think you are right, he needs to get his fears and concerns off his chest and to hear in return that it is natural to be afraid and upset. You are a great mom to recognize that he may need some councelling and that you actually are looking at it. Like FOF said, lots of parents don't believe in councelling for their children but this could be some form of post-traumatic stress for him.

God bless, lots of good prayers coming your way.

Mama B said...

Oh yes, I would definately attend that meeting and seek some sort of counseling for him. I'm glad you are noticing the signs. Kids tend to withold a lot and keep things in.

Lisa Lulu said...

Oh Alison, Daniel is a very sensitive guy just like his mama. You will get through this. It's hard for little people to understand such big grown up things. I am sure he will be ok. Take care.

Tee said...

Good Mommy :) I hope he's alright. Luckily he has you.