Tuesday, May 23, 2006

Happy Hearts.....

A dear friend who has been searching for sixteen years for his biological family has just had his prayers answered. Between the two of us, with what little info we had, started digging around, not to make a scene but to find out what we could about his heritage. He was told that he would not be able to connect with his family, but I was sure that we could at least find out some more info. Jodi was so helpful in the geneological research end of things, and for that we are so thankful. Being given up for adoption is not the end of the story in our minds. Not being able to know our pasts is tough stuff indeed. Wanting to respect the wishes of the birth family but also knowing what it is like not to know, I dug a little harder. Just in the last week , my friend received word that things were changing. Family that did not know about him had been told and that communication was imminent!

What a joy to be told this morning that he now has the identifying info of his mother and that communication and perhaps a relationship are around the corner. Both of our hearts are so much lighter now. The unfolding of a new chapter in his life, one that I have experienced, and all that it will bring is so exciting. Words cannot express the feelings!!!

7 comments:

Better Safe Than Sorry said...

the still scares me, i feel bad for both sides, i'd want it to work out, but there is so much risk in taking a chance, i'd be torn what to do. i hope things work out for your friend.

Tee said...

How exciting! :)

Jodi said...

I love when you get to the treasure! In this case it is even more special. Thank you for your appreciation, but I didn't do much. You two did a lot of work. Great job!

Margie said...

JOY!

Karen said...

I can't speak with experience on this topic, but I can see how it's a good idea to know the medical history of your birth family. And when both sides are open to meeting, that's such a great thing when they finally find each other. It must be very hard when one or the other does not want to know, though.

Jamie Dawn said...

That is great news. I know two women who found their daughters (now grown women) after a long time of searching.
One of them worked out well, but the other friend flew and met with her daughter and their relationship has been quite strained.
I hope this results in a wonderful relationship for them.

Michelle said...

With all of our medical issues we have wanted to search for Mike's biological family for a long time. Unfortunately the state he was adopted in has closed records and in order to get the info we have to jump through some mighty big hoops. We would love not only medical info but would love to meet them as well. Mike also has the fear that what if they don't want to meet him? It could be a very sad thing indeed but really something we'd be willing to risk.

I'm glad you were able to help your friend. We know from experience the heartache of not knowing who you are completely. Regardless of how the relationship ends up he will have some sort of closure and peace.